Whenever I am travelling by road, I get swept by the swarm of yellow & red lights which I get to over look from the flyovers, while my brother rides his Karizma at a speed of 100-120 kmph. As a thinker as I am, this thought dawns upon me. We can draw a metaphor from almost everything in life. The never ending traffic that day fathomed upon me yet another paradox of life through its metaphor.
The drivers, including all the traffic on the road, including my brother, usually are caught with overtaking the vehicles ahead of them. Even if they are going at a speed of 60, the vehicles behind want to overtake. Have you ever noticed these tendencies? Especially with the youth.
This attitude no longer remains curtailed to the road, it gets imbibed in their real life as well. Everybody wants to be better than everybody else. You want to overtake the vehicle riding ahead of you. It is like a bench mark to you. But once you get there, you will again see an ocean of never ending traffic ahead of you. There are always better people, people happier in other aspects, than the one you just outdid.
Most of us, in trying to overtake others, concentrate so much on the objects ahead of us that we slowly even tend to lose sight of the people present in our cars & lives, people as close to us as the ones on the pillion seat, our family. All our efforts are on the gears and accelerators of power and money to win or outrun others. It is a race that we have self involved ourselves in, where the one you are competing doesn’t know that he is your competitor – and that is the person you are trying to win over, who doesn’t even know about your presence, and at what cost.
Too often in this never ending self inflicted race, we miss out on the laughs and smiles of those with us; rather their petty humour is almost annoying to us. Our tanks are full but heart is empty. The streets are lit, but our souls are dark.
We keep travelling our whole life, but with the attitude that we are driving, we won’t reach anywhere, because we are not on a journey, we are in a blind race where we can only see the person ahead of us. Ahead in terms of money, fame, love, power, health, beauty, peace, joy, God and an endless number of things.
What we don’t realize is that we will never come across anyone who is endowed with everything. And in the tryst to overtake the one who has everything in this world, we will just end up overtaking the whole world, but never get anywhere.
Then there are some people, the few lucky and blessed ones who always carry their finishing lines behind them. The vehicle ahead of them is not actually ahead of them, but far behind. They are always ahead of the whole human race – happy with where they are and how they are.
They are the ones who don’t even need a fancy car, or for that matter even a car. They will be having the best time walking on their feet, close to nature, appreciating the company of their fellow travelers. They are not even walking towards a destination. Their destination lies in their journey.
You can’t sow the seeds of an apple and hope to harvest mangoes. Similarly the input of money, power and fame won’t give you the output of love, peace and joy. You have to lose yourself. Don’t benchmark success for yourself on the basis of what others have achieved for themselves.
We are just aware of the beauty of the show piece in the middle of their hall. The price attached to it is so high sometimes that they don’t pay it only from their pockets, but also empty the joys and happiness from their lives. What’s in racing against such people? And what use are those things for which there is no value, but for which we have lost all that was valuable.
All I am trying to say is that life is too short to mimic the lives of others and try to reach where they are. More often than not, the roses that attracted you to their gardens will wilt by the time you reach there. Life is to live, not to strive. No one is happy till the time they are measuring their happiness on parameters. To be happy, you need to stop thinking if you are, and you will be.
You will be happy looking at the sunshine. You will be happy that you have nowhere to reach, but everywhere to go. Be happy that you don’t have so much money that people will manipulate love to be with you. They love you for what you are.
Be happy that the colour of happiness is not green!